Peanut – 16 months

16 month old baby

If I thought that time was flying before, I don’t even know what to call now?   Skyrocketing?  Light speed?  Whatever it is, it’s going really fast.

This month Peanut has started to act out a lot more.  She’s all about asserting her own opinion and making her own choices.  Between learning how to shake her head “no” and refusing pretty much anything we ask her to do, we’re in big trouble over here.

The biggest change this month has been her eating habits.  Peanut has always been a wonderful and adventurous eater.  But in the past month or so, she’s cut that out almost cold turkey.   Peanut refuses almost any food – hot dogs are her favorite one day and then she won’t touch them for 3 days straight.  The other day she gobbled up a whole bowl of apple sauce with cereal.  The following week she refused to go near it.  I’m lost – who is this child and where is my little Peanut who ate everything put in front of her?

Along with her recent change in eating habits, Peanut is exerting her choice in, well, everything.

This month she learned to shake her head “no” and now does it to every question.  “Peanut, do you want a snack?” Shakes head no.  “Peanut, do you want to walk?” Shakes her head no.  I wonder if we can teach her how to shake her head “yes”?  Right now the whole shaking of the head thing is really cute, but I can see how it’s going to get real old real fast.

We’ve been trying to “discipline” our toddler, but at this point, I think the best discipline that works is ignoring or, if it’s really a big deal, putting her behind the gate in ‘timeout.’  Peanut isn’t a fan of any sort of discipline.  Or being told what to do.  Or being told “no.”  Or being told just about anything.  At this point she pretty much wants to do what she wants to do, when she wants to do it, and how she wants to do it.  Sigh.  At least she still gives good cuddles and kisses.

What does work here is asking Peanut to do some chores.  Her favorites this month include cleaning, putting the dog in the crate and giving him a treat, getting mommy her shoes, picking things up (we’re still working on actually putting them away).  She absolutely loves helping out and gets super excited whenever we give her any kind of direction.  I hope that doesn’t change when it’s time for her to learn how to do laundry.

Among other, Peanut’s new tricks this month pointing out just about every single farm animal (or any other animal for that matter).  She recently received a new book from her Gigi that has a ton of farm animals and scenes and it’s her absolute favorite.  She brings it over, backs her little tushy to sit on our laps, and then makes us go through every animal, farm equipment, and person on every page.  She gets especially excited for cows, dogs, sheep, and birds.  Those are her favorite.

And unlike many toddlers, Peanut absolutely loves her crib, naps, and going to bed.  In fact, when we say, “Peanut, do you want to take a nap?”  she gets all giddy and toddles her little way over her bedroom.  Whenever she is super cranky or seems upset, we set her in the crib and she snuggles up with her toys and blanket and calms down.  It’s super funny.

Peanut’s vocabulary is slowly growing too, although no one but us seems to know about it (daycare says that she never talks theres).  She is now saying: dog, moo, more, bird, ball, duck.  She’s also starting to babble non sense, but looking at us as if we’re supposed to know exactly what she is trying to say.  We do our best to pretend but it’s not easy.

Other than her new habit of saying “no” to us, Peanut is still a super happy baby.  She doesn’t cry unless she’s hurt or seriously upset and she does tend to follow most of our directions pretty well.  I guess we couldn’t slide through the toddler years completely scott-free.


Comments

  1. This is cute. And you are SO lucky that Peanut likes her crib so much. I’m incredibly jealous.

  2. I know the last thing most mommas want is advice that is unsolicited, BUT, I am just going to throw this out there (even though I am not at that stage with E yet!) Moms on Call toddler seminar/discipline techniques is supposed to be ahhhhmazing. I have a friend who does it with her 2 year old. Peanut may still be a little young. One of their big things is when your child says no, you tell them “Not no, yes ma’am and do it!”

    Also, from being a Kindergarten teacher, I learned pretty quickly never to ask my students if they WANT to do something. It’s “We are going to read this book” Not “do you want to?” Don’t give her a choice ;)

    And the eating thing… yes, Emmy loves something one day and hates it the next. The only constants are pancakes (every morning), grilled cheese, organic mac n cheese… cheese cheese cheese. See a theme?

    xo

  3. It must be so fun to see her grow into this little person with ideas and opinions! She sounds like so much fun.

  4. Oh man – Thatcher doesn’t eat hardly anything, so I know that routine. I mean, the kid won’t even eat junk food like donuts or spaghetti o’s! Literally his diet consists of yogurt, apple sauce & fruit. When he gets an idea in his head, too, that is pretty much all he wants (not eating or going outside, etc). He just laughs if we say no or try to exert control. They are a handful at this age!

  5. It is so hysterical when they learn “no”. Everything is no! ha ha. She is just so precious.

  6. I love that picture of her! So sweet!!! And for the no thing she’s just preparing you for when she’s a teenager! lol

  7. Yeeeeah, let me know when you get that eating thing figured out. We’ve hit that roadblock over here too. Pretty sure Sadie ate enough ALL weekend to total what ONE of her normal meals was two weeks ago…

  8. Hi Kat, can’t believe Peanut is 16 months! The ‘no’ stage is cute, but definitely frustrating. It’s all about them wanting to assert their independence, and make decisions for themselves, which is a good thing, but very frustrating (especially when working in daycare with several children going through that stage!). I’ve found that the best way of counter acting this stage & it has worked on several children, is to give them choices. Just two simple choices, saying ‘you can have this, or this’, but the two outcomes are outcomes that YOU want, so basically P is winning because she gets a choice, but you’re also winning because you’re achieving a desired outcome.

    I think giving toddlers simple choices is a great way of helping them to learn how to make choices, and leaving them assert their independence in a safe and constructive way. Something that one of my lecturers in uni said that has stuck with me, is that if we don’t allow children to make small choices, how will they be able to make the bigger choices when they are teenagers and have all that peer pressure going on?

    Hope this was helpful :)

    • Thanks! Once she gets the understanding of a choice, we’re definitely going to give this a try. Right now she just likes saying “no” lol even to things she wants.

  9. I can totally relate with the eating and attitude! Bryce is still so picky, and it is the random picky. He loves something one day, hates it the next:) Part of my frustration is the wasting of the food…boo!! I know their are hungry children somewhere and I am wasting food….hate it!!

    The attitude is just fantastic (cue sarcasm) and I still have no good idea on the best way to discipline. It seems that it depends on the day/situation on what works best. I will tell you having a stubborn child makes for some lovely mommy moments. Ha! He is just so cute, so I get in trouble for giving in…still working on that. I just can’t resist that little face…I’m sure you can relate:)

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