Some deep thoughts on working full time, daycare, and toddlers

Peanut is pretty much a full blown toddler these days and I have a few things that I want to talk to you guys about.

A few weeks back Jon and I spent almost a day trying to teach Peanut where her nose is.  We were so proud of ourselves when she touched her nose.  The next day, after picking Peanut up from daycare, we asked her to touch her nose, which she did.  We then asked her to touch her ear, which she did.  And her hair, which she did.  And her eye, which she did.  And her belly, which she did.  Le sigh.  What are the chances that we actually thought her the nose trick?  I’m going with slim to none since there is almost no way that she picked up the rest in one day.

On the one hand I am so proud and so excited to know that our daycare is teaching Peanut all sorts of awesome tricks.  It really solidifies our choice in daycare and I’m excited to watch her grow.

On the other hand, I’m so sad to know that there are going to be many things that we will not teach her.  These aren’t a big deal and I know that there are way wore things for me to consider, like her not learning things at daycare.  But let me just sob in the corner for a minute here as I deal with the fact that someone else taught my kid almost all of her body parts.

(and also how to give a high five…that one I may actually be bitter about)

This actually goes to a few other points that I want to make that all lead to one and the same conclusion – I really need to learn how to let things go.

We decided to stop bringing lunch to day care and let them feed Peanut the same thing that the other kids eat.  I must preface this by saying that I actually reviewed every single meal they have planned within the rotation and spent a lot of time talking to the director at the daycare about making sure that Peanut doesn’t have too much sugar or sodium.  The decision was mostly driven by the fact that Peanut was really dipping in her growth weight scale and the fact that we noticed that she eats better when she has what everyone around her is eating (never underestimate the power of peer pressure).  Let me tell you the teeth grinding that I am doing when I pick up P and she is having a vanilla wafer with the other kids around a table.  It’s a struggle between knowing that this isn’t going to kill her but will indeed help her put on a couple of pounds and my control freak nature.

Hence, I need to learn how to let go.

On the same note, I’m also having a hard time keeping up with the level of home cleanliness within my comfort level.  I’ve gone from vacuuming the house once  a day to once or twice a week.  I know that a dirty house isn’t going to be the thing that I remember looking back, but seeing the dust pile up in the corner of the baby gate gives me anxiety.

Another thing I have to just let go.

Don’t even get me started on the bottle to sippy transition.  I’ve let that one go.

I guess I’m just finally facing the fact that working 40+ hours a week, having a toddler, and still keeping up with all my hobbies that I refuse to let go of will mean letting some things fall off the list.

Our toddler is starting to sprout little teeth – that’s new around here.  I can’t tell you how excited we are to see them (and relieved that we don’t have to wonder if something is wrong) and how much we are looking forward to not cutting all her food into pea-sized squares.  What I am not a huge fan of is all the whining the accompanies growing teeth.

This is where the positives of daycare come in.  It’s actually rather awesome that the daycare has to deal with all the whining during the day and we get to pick up our toddler at the end of the day.  She is usually so excited to see us that there is limited to no whining going on back home.

Another positive that I’ve recently learned about is the fact that daycare will actually teach your kid how to use the potty.  As in, we don’t have to (although it’s encouraged to keep up with it at home as well, which we intend to).  Anyone else think that this is pretty cool?

And that completes my rant deep thoughts for this Friday.

Submitting this one for Favorite photo in April.