Ms. T’s birth story

You know how everyone around you tells you that you can have a birth plan but to remain flexible? Why is that always easier to say than it is to do?

Taylor’s birth story is just a little different than we all expected but at the end of the day we were all healthy and happy and that’s all that matters.

It all started a week or so earlier – I started having some practice contractions that would pick up for a couple of hours and then stop. Jon and I headed to my 40 week appointment on Thursday, May 9th, and watched regular contractions (that were actually kinda painful) on the stress monitor for two hours. After the appointment we headed home and were positive that we were having a baby that night. After another hour or two of contractions, they started to slow down and by the time I woke up the following morning, they were gone. The same thing continued to happen the next day and the next and the next.

By Sunday, Mother’s Day, when I woke up to some uncomfortable, though not painful, contractions, I was pretty sure they were fake. As the day continued and the contractions didn’t go away (though they were still very irregular and nothing to write home about), I started to secretly get my hopes up. Around 3pm, after P woke up from her nap, we went to take a walk around the neighborhood. My contractions started picking up a bit during our walk and continued to increase in frequency once we were home. By 4:30ish they became regular and increasing in strength. We decided that it was the “real thing,” called Jon’s mom to come to our house and started to prepare (I wanted to make dinner for P and Jon wanted to clean up). By 5 they were 4-5 minutes apart and I was in pain. By 6 they were 3 minutes apart on average and I was barely dealing with the pain. Around 6:30 Jon’s mom arrived and Jon and I pulled together the last minute items, gave her a few directions, kissed our only child about 5 million times, and headed out the door.

We arrived at the hospital by 7:30pm and after being monitored for a few minutes in Triage were admitted. I was at 5-6cm in triage and 7cm by the time I got admitted. Labor was progressing hard and fast and I decided to ask for the epidural. Once that was in, it only took me another hour or two to reach 10cm, the official “push time.” The nurse said I was progressing incredibly fast and she expected that we’d be holding our baby girl within the half hour.

At 10pm the midwife and doctor came in and we were ready to get started. Usually the midwife is there for the beginning and the doctor comes in to “catch the baby” (meaning, last couple of pushes when the baby comes out). However, the way things were going they were positive that she would be out in a handful of contractions. I was thrilled (it took me over 3 hours to push Peanut out) and braced myself for the hard part.

This is where things started to change.

I pushed for 4 hours, switching positions and trying everything anyone had to offer to get the baby out. The doctor left the room, coming back periodically to check on me and leaving to deliver the other babies in her care. Around 2 the midwife checked the baby’s position and determined that she was sideways. We tried more tricks and she thought the baby had turned but my contractions were getting milder and milder and she was nowhere near where she needed to be. After some conversations we decided on pushing some Pitocin (the drug used to induce or increase contractions) and increase my Epidural to give my body some rest time while bringing the baby lower. I “rested” for an hour (it was less labor than pushing but deff still not what I would call resting) and we all watched the baby’s heartbeat drop with every other contraction. I switched positions, got on my knees, laid back again and did everything to help get the baby heart rate back up but after an hour, the doc came in, watched the monitor, watched the baby, and told us that we needed to do something to get the baby out immediately.

After some tears and a lot of questions from me, we decided to try the Vacuum for 3 contractions before going to a C-section. The doctor told me all the risks (after I begged for statistics) and I cried some more while they prepared.

The room went from a nurse, a midwife and a doctor to about 3 nurses, 3 Pediatricians, the doctor, my midwife and a couple other people. They all prepped their respective equipment and I dealt with the facts and was ready to proceed.

The first contraction brought the baby lower. The second had her almost out and her head appeared on the third. I can’t (and won’t for those of you wanting to have babies) go into the gory details or the pain that this process introduced, but let’s just say that it was beyond unpleasant. After her head appeared I had to stop pushing while they unwrapped the cord from around her neck (it was preventing her from coming down) and then without a contraction per my pleading I pushed the rest of the baby out. She cried her sweet cry and was immediately taken by the Pediatricians. After checking her over, I got to hold our baby girl for a couple of minutes. She wasn’t doing well breathing on her own so they took her to the NICU while I had to stay and continue with the birth stuff (you know, delivering placenta, being stitched up, etc).

Taylor was born at 3:25am on Monday morning, May 13th.

Ends up that the baby was Sunny side up (turned the wrong way, facing the ceiling rather than the floor) and unable to progress down on her own. The cord was wrapped around her neck, preventing her from moving as well. And to top it all off, she was almost 8lbs – a little different from my first 6lb baby and a little large for my very small frame. The doctor assured me that doing the vacuum was the best decision in this case and there wouldn’t be a chance that I was going to have this baby without assistance no matter the effort on my part.

Immediately after the baby was out I looked over at my husband who was white as a ghost. It took two nurses to sit him down and tend to him and make sure he didn’t pass out. Apparently it was just as intense for him. Well, almost.

After another hour or two I was finally unhooked from the Epidural and was allowed to be wheeled to the NICU to see my baby girl and try nursing. She was breathing, but now her breathing was elevated beyond the doctor’s comfort level. I stayed with her for over an hour, nursing most of that time (the little nugget was a champ!). Once she finished nursing and receiving at least 5 million kisses from her two adoring parents, we left her to be monitored for another hour or so while we moved to our room.

Upstairs in our room Jon and I took a quick nap, got checked up about 3 times, washed up and at 11am we were finally reunited with the baby. Aside from a sizable bruise and a few cuts on her head (think large circle from where the vacuum suction cup attached to her head and a cut in the center of it), she was perfect and doing great. Aside from a bunch of stitches and extremely sore abs from pushing, so was I.

Taylor's birth


Comments

  1. Second babies definitely have different plans and personalities than the firsts and we’re only at the beginning!! Congratulations and so glad to hear she and you arrived safely and healthy.

  2. Thank you for sharing this story. I was honored to watch my nephew enter the world and after 3+ hours of pushing they used a vacuum as well. It was really scary (REALLY REALLY) to watch so I can only imagine how Jon felt. But my sister in law was in a similar position re: her size and the baby being a big boy so he would not have gotten out any other way.

    I am just about 30 weeks pregnant as I read this post with tears in my eyes and chills down my spine. I am very anxious and nervous about the labor and birth journey that lies ahead, but whenever I see pictures of a little one who has just entered the world I get so emotional. It is such a miracle and us women? Well, we’re amazing.

    Thank you for sharing your story and welcome to little Taylor!

  3. Congratulations, Kat! You have such a beautiful family and I’m glad you didn’t have to have a section! She’s here and it’s all that matters! Ethan’s labor was so different from Braden’s – I agree…2nd babies have different plans!

  4. Candice says:

    Wow, what a story. How terrifying it all sounds. I’m so glad everything worked out okay in the end and that you and Taylor are doing perfectly well.

  5. I’m so glad you are both healthy! My first daughter was very similar, minus the pushing. Vacuum extraction is scary but I’m glad it worked! I’m glad nursing is going well too. I found it much easier with my second, since I had thousands of hours of experience with my first.

  6. Congratulations on your sweet, gorgeous baby, Kat and family! Her birth story had me in tears….mainly joy but some anxiety and remembrance of the pain too. I have two little ones, a 3 year old son and 1 year old daughter, and after having a relatively slow labor and epidural with delivery of my first, I was in absolutely no way prepared for my natural delivery of my daughter who came 15 minutes after I arrived at the hospital : )

    Thank you for sharing your amazing family, I love reading your blog and watching your family grow. You are in many ways inspiring to me. Hope you have a wonderful day!

    Jami

  7. So glad it turned out well! I thought for sure you had a c-section with your story (sounded much like my first, a c/s). Congratulations!

  8. Amyylyn says:

    First of all congratulations to you guys again, she is gorgeous! Also, Lucas’s birth story is super similar minus the vacuum do I know very well the anxiety and worry you guys are feeling. Every baby has a plan of their own and Miss T wanted to get you on your toes ASAP.. ;-) Can’t wait to see you guys and meet that beautiful girl!

  9. Amyylyn says:

    Ahhh auto correct us not my friend. WERE feeling not are! Lol

  10. Wow Kat!! What an amazing story! I’m so glad Taylor is here, healthy, and absolutely gorgeous! Great job momma! Thanks for sharing!

  11. You had quite the experience! Glad everyone is safe and healthy. T is just a doll! She looks like she was a long baby too!

  12. Congratulations!!! She is beautiful!!!

    What a story – you guys are all troopers.

  13. So I was obviously a little behind on blog reading and made that comment on IG about being excited to read the birth story. Ha! I’m so glad everything turned out fine and that you avoided a C! I pushed for 4 hours with Jax, then ended up with a C (although I reallllly wish we had tried the vacuum first… Still not sure why we didn’t), so I’m very happy for you that you avoided that. Also? I think I’m completely crazy because your dramatic birth story just made my ovaries go pitter patter. I just love birth stories!!

  14. Congratulations, Kat! She’s so adorable and I would never have guessed she was vacuumed or you pushed for that long! Her head looks so nice and round! Congrats!!

  15. Wonderful birth story. Glad everyone is doing well and FINALLY you’re a mommy of 2!

  16. I’m so glad you guys are ok and man, these birth stories teach you some crazy things about childbirth!

  17. Boy you are a trooper! I’m sorry labor didn’t go even remotely smoothly. My 1st was also sunny side up and wasn’t coming in the timely manner I was told to predict (she was also 10 lbs.) The Doctor said get her out now or we have to try something else…. Luckily I was able to get her out on my own (but I have a much larger frame than you.) You poor thing. I hope you are taking really good care of yourself in-between those sweet baby cuddles!!

  18. I always tell people, especially first time moms, ‘A healthy baby and a healthy mom is what we’re aiming for, how it happens doesn’t matter’ …. but, man! the vacuum doesn’t sound pleasant at all =/ And pushing for 4 HOURS! I just wanted to give you a hug when I read that. You must still be exhausted.

    All of your pictures look like you’re in your element as a mom to 2 =) Am I wrong to think that Taylor looks like Jon? In a couple pictures that I’ve seen, I’ve thought that. But then in other pictures I can’t tell who she looks like…

    • Honestly, I think she looks like Jon’s dad which he has very little resemblance to but his brother does. A lot of peeps think she looks like me but I think the only thing “mine” is her pale skin and fair hair. The rest are totally King genes.

  19. I’m so happy Taylor is here safe and sound! I can’t even imagine what that experience must have been like for you and Jon. Thanks for sharing your story! You have a beautiful family!

  20. I don’t think the medical community should call it a “birth plan.” It should be called something like “birth options.” When I went into labor with Porter at 35 weeks while touring the hospital with my childbirth class, I knew that what I thought labor would be like was not how it was going to be. That baby calls the shots! And there are so many possibilities, options, choices–all different for all sorts of situations. Before Porter I was hellbent on having a drug free birth, but when I was in labor for over 24 hours, uncomfortable and practically sleeping between contractions because I was so exhausted, I welcomed that epidural with open arms. And I’m glad I did! I’m glad you did what was right for you and baby in your particular situation. Now you have a lovely little girl to show for it! Rest up!

  21. So glad everything (and everyone!) turned out so beautifully in the end!

  22. Carrie C. says:

    Congratulations on baby Taylor! So happy to hear you are both doing well. Hope P likes being a big sister! I was due May 9th as well, but our daughter came a week early. At first your story reminded me of my labor. However when you stopped progressing, we went full speed ahead. Doctor broke my water since I was stuck at 8. I went from 8 to 10 in less than 5 minutes. It was the most intense pain ever, even with an epidural. The anesthesiologist had to come back in due to the sudden intensity of my 7lb-13oz baby coming down so quick. I panicked. Two pushes later she came out in lightening speed. The doctor caught her by the thigh. I panicked some more and my husband almost fainted. Labor and delivery is so tolling emotionally and physically. You are such a strong momma to make it through labor and delivery with a healthy baby girl. Enjoy maternity leave and adjusting to a family of 4. My oldest daughter turned 2 on 4/29 and she has done much better than I thought being a big sister. I admit I was worried about that transition. Sorry for the long post! Best wishes to you and your beautiful family!

  23. I finally got a moment to sit down and read your birth story! First of all congratulations to your family. Taylor is beautiful. I love your pictures! I follow you on IG and now I’m hooked on your blog. Enjoy your new princess!

  24. Wow – This is quite a birth story – I found myself holding my breath as I read. Taylor is perfect – you did a great job!

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